Hopeless romantics are frequently daydreamers, idealists, and poets—distinguished for their spirited passion and steady optimism. But another kind of hopeless romantic is stalled in lonely wretchedness. Painful hopelessness stalks many people who, feeling unlucky in love, are … [Read more...] about Are You Hopeless of Ever Finding Love?
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Deeper Reflections on Inner Passivity
A few years ago the actor and filmmaker Seth MacFarlane made a brave and honest observation about his inner life: “I wish I was better at taking in how great my life is, but that’s surprisingly elusive. I tend to be very hard on myself and insecure about failing no matter what … [Read more...] about Deeper Reflections on Inner Passivity
Escape the Misery of Moodiness
“I drink and eat in moderation,” a client told me. “I go to bed at a reasonable hour. I love my wife and kids. The only thing I binge on is irritability and restlessness. I’m a bundle of blue moods.” His blue moods, as he described them, were not agonizingly painful, yet he … [Read more...] about Escape the Misery of Moodiness
Emotional Fortitude for Anxious Times
The world is changing fast. We’d better be prepared. Survivalists stock up on food and guns. I recommend we stock up on mental and emotional health. Becoming psychologically stronger is likely the best investment anyone can make right now. This strength puts us in a better … [Read more...] about Emotional Fortitude for Anxious Times
Who Wants to Be a Celebrity?
Lots of people feel unrecognized and unappreciated. They experience themselves to a considerable degree through feelings of being unworthy and unloved. When such people spot a celebrity in the flesh, they have an emotional reaction that usually varies according to their … [Read more...] about Who Wants to Be a Celebrity?