Hopeless romantics are frequently daydreamers, idealists, and poets—distinguished for their spirited passion and steady optimism. But another kind of hopeless romantic is stalled in lonely wretchedness. Painful hopelessness stalks many people who, feeling unlucky in love, are … [Read more...] about Are You Hopeless of Ever Finding Love?
Readers often send me emails with comments and questions. I answer as many as I can. Sometimes I can only offer encouragement and a bit of advice. Here are some questions, edited to remove details that could identify the individuals, along with my responses (in italics). Dear … [Read more...] about Answers to Questions from Readers (Part 2)
News commentators have been trying to figure out what motivated a group of white University of Oklahoma students on an outing earlier this month to sing a racist chant laden with anti-black slurs and a reference to lynching. The episode made national headlines after it was … [Read more...] about Hidden Dynamics of Racism
Shame is a powerful and self-damaging emotion, and many books in recent years have tackled the subject in search of its roots. Some experts say shame is “the quintessential negative emotion” because it influences so many different moods and behaviors. While shame can saturate … [Read more...] about O Shame, Where is Thy Secret Source?