Hopeless romantics are frequently daydreamers, idealists, and poets—distinguished for their spirited passion and steady optimism. But another kind of hopeless romantic is stalled in lonely wretchedness. Painful hopelessness stalks many people who, feeling unlucky in love, are … [Read more...] about Are You Hopeless of Ever Finding Love?
Hidden Dynamics of Racism
News commentators have been trying to figure out what motivated a group of white University of Oklahoma students on an outing earlier this month to sing a racist chant laden with anti-black slurs and a reference to lynching. The episode made national headlines after it was … [Read more...] about Hidden Dynamics of Racism
O Shame, Where is Thy Secret Source?
Shame is a powerful and self-damaging emotion, and many books in recent years have tackled the subject in search of its roots. Some experts say shame is “the quintessential negative emotion” because it influences so many different moods and behaviors. While shame can saturate … [Read more...] about O Shame, Where is Thy Secret Source?
When You Feel Bad About Yourself
One common form of suffering involves the feeling of shriveling up inside from allegedly being bad, unworthy, flawed, and defective. Such people can go through life anticipating being seen by others in a negative light. They expect that they might, at any moment, be exposed as a … [Read more...] about When You Feel Bad About Yourself