For more than 100 years, psychoanalysis has been trying to explain the hazards and dynamics of inner conflict. Yet people still don’t get it. Unconscious resistance and denial hamper our ability to see ourselves more objectively. People are not only unaware of the dynamics of … [Read more...] about The Hazards of Inner Conflict
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Exposing the Roots of Emotional Suffering
If you like psychology, you’ve come to the right place. If you’re having a hard time with life, this is the website for you. The psychology here is profound. You won’t find anything else like it online. The knowledge is deep—and very liberating. As a psychotherapist, I’ve seen … [Read more...] about Exposing the Roots of Emotional Suffering
How Do We Achieve Self-Control?
“If self-control is so important,” a reader asks, “how are we supposed to achieve it?” Personally, I don’t much like the term “self-control.” It suggests a desperate struggle between willpower and cravings, or between restraint and impulses. The term promises endless … [Read more...] about How Do We Achieve Self-Control?
The Scoop on Intimate Partner Abuse
The problem of intimate partner abuse has received wide attention following incidents involving National Football League players. Yet media discussions of the subject tend to deal with superficial considerations. Little is being said about the deeper psychological issues that … [Read more...] about The Scoop on Intimate Partner Abuse
Tormented Mothers, Endangered Babies
Thousands of mothers are plagued on a daily basis by intrusive thoughts in which they imagine or see themselves doing harm to their children. The problem was highlighted this month in two articles (here and here) that appeared in The New York Times. In these thoughts or mental … [Read more...] about Tormented Mothers, Endangered Babies