A lot of people struggle with the challenge of trying not only to feel good about themselves but, more urgently, trying to avoid feeling bad or really bad about themselves. When individuals understand the primary psychological dynamics that produce self-doubt, … [Read more...] about How to Love Yourself
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Lincoln’s Integrity, Our Integrity
Integrity, as manifested in Abraham Lincoln, has gone missing in the American soul, like Bernie Madoff’s billions. The nation’s future harmony and prosperity may depend on restoring this vital virtue. We can understand integrity if, through our imagination, we step into … [Read more...] about Lincoln’s Integrity, Our Integrity
The Bittersweet Allure of Feeling Unloved
Though it’s mostly unconscious, many people have a strange affinity for feeling rejected, abandoned, and unloved. Yes, this idea flies in the face of common sense. Who would want to bear the pain of feeling unloved any more than what life might force upon us? Our psyche is … [Read more...] about The Bittersweet Allure of Feeling Unloved
Respect, Disrespect, and Self-Respect
A client of mine, Jill, complained that she was feeling disrespected by her husband, Jack. Indeed, he often mocked her and spoke to her sarcastically. He also had difficulty expressing his affection and appreciation for her. He had been raised in a family whose members had been … [Read more...] about Respect, Disrespect, and Self-Respect