To become emotionally strong, we might need to understand the inner dynamics of emotional weakness. There’s no need to feel bad about having a weakness. A man who aspires, for instance, to become a good tennis player is simply being sensible when he takes steps to overcome a weak … [Read more...] about We Get Stronger by Seeing Our Weakness
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The Warmonger in Our Psyche
Humanity’s appetite for war arises from our psyche’s inner war. War is just one of the bitter fruits of our refusal to recognize and overcome the persistent disharmony that churns within us. War is a byproduct of the inner conflict that generates neurosis, and neurosis is … [Read more...] about The Warmonger in Our Psyche
How to Rescue Yourself from Suffering
Trying to access our inner life can feel like entering an underworld of dark, nonsensical obscurity. When we’re in emotional distress, how do we penetrate this darkness? How do we rescue ourselves from suffering and self-defeat? Whatever misery or ineptitude we’re … [Read more...] about How to Rescue Yourself from Suffering
The Vital Knowledge We Disown
Many of us are somewhere on a neurosis spectrum where our emotional and behavioral self-regulation is rendered unstable by inner conflict, misleading defenses, and lingering attachments to unresolved negative emotions. Deep in our unconscious mind is a hidden dysfunction … [Read more...] about The Vital Knowledge We Disown
The Key to Emotional Self-Regulation
How much choice do we have at any given moment to feel good or okay instead of miserable? Quite a lot, it turns out, when we understand the nature of inner conflict. Most of us believe we’re basically good and decent. Yet often we can’t feel such attributes as a reassuring … [Read more...] about The Key to Emotional Self-Regulation