Chronic defensiveness is so irritating, like living beside a village square where the town criers daily proclaim their innocence. Dodging honest conversation in this squirmy way is quite possibly the number one pollutant of relationship harmony. It’s worse than a bad habit or … [Read more...] about Defensiveness for Dummies
Depth Psychology
Exposing the Roots of Emotional Suffering
If you like psychology, you’ve come to the right place. If you’re having a hard time with life, this is the website for you. The psychology here is profound. You won’t find anything else like it online. The knowledge is deep—and very liberating. As a psychotherapist, I’ve seen … [Read more...] about Exposing the Roots of Emotional Suffering
Who Wants to Be a Celebrity?
Lots of people feel unrecognized and unappreciated. They experience themselves to a considerable degree through feelings of being unworthy and unloved. When such people spot a celebrity in the flesh, they have an emotional reaction that usually varies according to their … [Read more...] about Who Wants to Be a Celebrity?
Say Goodbye to Your Regrets
“I don’t think I can ever let go of my regrets,” a new client sadly remarked. She was saying, indirectly, that she didn’t know how to live without her grief, sorrow, and self-recrimination. Regrets are precious to the dark side of our psyche. They’re used, as well, by our … [Read more...] about Say Goodbye to Your Regrets
How to Recognize Good Psychotherapy
Psychotherapy can be very helpful—and, in some cases, essential—for success, self-fulfillment, and future happiness. But it can also be a waste of time and money if you don’t have a good therapist. Regretfully, a majority of psychotherapists practice superficial methods that … [Read more...] about How to Recognize Good Psychotherapy