This post is an excerpt from LoveSmart: Transforming the Emotional Patterns that Sabotage Relationships, by my late wife, Sandra Michaelson. The excerpt is taken from the section of her book that deals with control issues. People can be highly sensitive to feeling controlled even … [Read more...] about Our Readiness to Feel Controlled
The Key to Emotional Self-Regulation
How much choice do we have at any given moment to feel good or okay instead of miserable? Quite a lot, it turns out, when we understand the nature of inner conflict. Most of us believe we’re basically good and decent. Yet often we can’t feel such attributes as a reassuring … [Read more...] about The Key to Emotional Self-Regulation
Seven Villains in a Sad Love Story
Multitudinous are the grisly details of how infidelity, jealousy, and verbal abuse can violate marital and relationship harmony. Love vaporizes when each partner’s underlying inner conflict is setting the relationship’s terms. Stories of relationship distress are treasure troves … [Read more...] about Seven Villains in a Sad Love Story
The Latest Pandemic: Feeling Overwhelmed
No surprise that people are emotionally challenged by the staggering advances of modern technology, the economy’s abrupt U-turns, and the disruptions of old established ways. We’re future-shock fast-forwarding, hoping the zeitgeist can survive the frenzy. How are you, dear … [Read more...] about The Latest Pandemic: Feeling Overwhelmed
The Blindness of the Species
The surging mental-health distress among children and adults attests to the urgency of demystifying the human psyche. We blind ourselves—through a false self, naïve ego-ideal, and vainglorious self-image—to the inner dynamics in our psyche. We are not recognizing how we become … [Read more...] about The Blindness of the Species